In marriage, if we are not growing closer together we are probably drifting apart. Understanding the need to constantly invest in your marriage helps to put our priorities in order.
Your marriage takes maintenance. As a couple, you need to be investing in each other through prayer, date nights, family time, marriage ministries (For example: Focus on the Family’s weekend to remember marriage conference) and taking the time to help each other grow closer as you further your relationship with God.
If we step outside of our marriage in areas that could be viewed as inappropriate we are setting ourselves up for disaster. Some signs of being unprotected are:
If you spend more time with your buddies than you do with your spouse(Warning!)
If you find yourself confiding in marital matters, consistently, with another person who is not your spouse (Warning!)
If you have a habit that takes precedence or priority over your spouse or family (Warning!)
Many husbands and wives suffer divorce due to infidelity/adultery. But the common misconception is that it is due to a physical affair.
If you are married and you allow the devil to get a foot hold in your life do not be surprised when the divorce papers arrive.
Pornography, alcohol abuse, addiction, job lust (loving your job more than your spouse), activities that consume your time so you cannot spend time with your family (these can be good activities as well), and anything that you allow to take precedence over your relationship with God and your wife will ultimately drive a wedge between you.
The concept of span of control can be applied on your marriage. Do not let yourself become over committed that you end up neglecting your family.